We share an iPad. It lives on the kitchen counter, we both use it for recipes and Netflix. Last Tuesday I picked it up to check a recipe and her notes app was open to a page titled "Session 14". I want to be honest here: I did not close it. I read the whole thing. Then I scrolled up and read sessions 11 through 13 as well. She has been talking to her therapist for two months about whether she should leave me. Not "we argue a lot". Whether to leave. There is a list of pros and cons. My name is in the cons column next to the words "doesn't notice". I confronted her that evening. I said I read it, I said I'm sorry, and I said we need to talk about the list. She went white, then she went quiet, then she said the only thing we are going to talk about is the fact that I read her therapy notes. That was nine days ago. Her position is that the notes are the equivalent of a diary and that reading them is a violation she is not sure she can get past. My position is that she has been planning an exit for two months while acting normal at dinner, and that I would never have known if I hadn't looked. She says that's exactly what therapy is for. I say a list of reasons to leave me is not a feeling, it's a plan. Her sister says I'm the problem. My mate says he'd have read it too. We are still in the same flat and it is very quiet.